In a new post on her Facebook page, Jada Pinkett Smith is giving some much needed advice to women who are in or thinking about engaging with a blended family. This is just the most recent advice column that the actress/wife/mother has shared on her FB page in the last few months, delving into topics like human trafficking and marriage equality. In 1997 when she married Will Smith, she not only became the wife of one of the most in demand actors, but she also became a step mom of his son Trey and a co-parent with his ex-wife Sheree Zampino.
Jada writes this open letter to a friend and shares it on Facebook for anyone who is facing the joys and the challenges of blended families. Read her advice:
Blended families are NEVER easy, but here’s why I don’t have a lot of sympathy for your situation because… we CHOOSE them. When I married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package…Period! If I didn’t want that…I needed to marry someone else. Then I learned if I am going to love Trey…I had to learn to love the most important person in the world to him…his mother. And the two of us may not have always LIKED each other… but we have learned to LOVE each other.
I can’t support any actions that keep a man from his children of a previous marriage. These are the situations that separate the women from the girls. Your behavior is that of an insecure child who needs to recognize her own weaknesses that MUST be strengthened to take on the task at hand. We can’t say we love our man and then come in between him and his children. THAT’S selfishness…NOT love. WOMAN UP… I’ve been there…I know. My blended family made me a giant… Taught me so much about love, commitment and it has been the biggest ego death to date. It’s time you let your blended family make you the giant you truly are.